- What area of your life needs healing the most right now?
- What is one practical way you can move toward Jesus this week?
- What does Jesus offer that you need to cling to TODAY?
Good morning Hope City! My name is Pastor Peter, what a privilege it is to be here today with you all as we continue in our series Shame Off You. We are learning how to #SHIFTshame and live lives that God intended for us. Last week we talked about the origin of shame, from the very beginning of God’s story. We looked at how Adam and Eve bought into the lie of Satan and brought shame into humanity.
Shame was different than guilt though right? We talked about this. Guilt says YOU DID BAD. Shame says YOU ARE BAD. Guilt isn’t necessarily a bad thing… Guilt is that thing that triggers a response in you to change. I felt guilty, so I changed the way that I was treating my coworkers, or boss, or spouse. SHAME on the other hand, is not healthy. Shame says, you not only did bad, but you fundamentally are bad, and all you’ll ever be is bad. Far too many of you here in this room suffer silently from shame. You walked in today and you’re wearing this cone of shame again, right? You’re believing the story that YOU ARE BAD. The plot line is you’ve done something, therefore you are something.
Today, I am excited to share a message with you that I hope helps bring you freedom from this. That helps you very practically #SHIFTshame. We’re going to #SHIFTshame this week, and keep shifting it.
You’ll remember we said this last week… SHAME NEVER COMES FROM GOD. But it can come from you.
A couple weeks ago, my family and I were very generously given a gift to go to the Sarasota Circus. We’d never been, and I’ve got to tell you, we THOROUGHLY ENJOYED our experience there. We live
in one of the coolest towns, don’t we? I mean, as if we need many more reasons to be #FORsarasota. This place is awesome.
Well, we went to the circus and we enter the big top, and the first act goes by, it’s amazing. We break for the second act, and get back in our seats, and the show goes on. Well, all throughout the show, they’ve been having RENALDO the clown entertain the audience, very talented… very funny. And he’s interacting with audience members, making everyone laugh, usually at the expense of the person he’s interacting with. Well, he comes over to our section and he’s looking for a volunteer. I do what any decent, self-respecting husband does, I begin to draw attention to my wife. OVER HERE… HER… I’m walking the line between suicide by spouse, and sleeping on the couch. But my kids think it’s amazing. SO I kept on going.
Well to my deep delight, the clown comes closer… and he looks at my wife and does one of these — (make clown noise) — POINTING AT ME! HOLD UP BUDDY… Nah… Nah… You’ve misunderstood my enthusiasm… this was for TIFFANY– Not me. So I get called into the ring, and end up performing in a mime sketch for the next 15 minutes. Let me tell you a little bit about the character that I was playing. I’m a drunk cowboy who enters into a saloon and drinks a barrel of beer, and at the end of it, I’m supposed to let off some pressure if you know what I mean…
In my head, I’m thinking to myself, what did I get myself into…. Great job Pastor. Here you are out in front of the city that you love acting like a drunk cowboy… This will play out well. And then to boot…. I get an email about a week later, hey, so I was at the circus the other day, and a guy looking just like you got called into the ring… was that you by chance?
Sometimes we bring shame on ourselves! Shame never comes from God but it can come from us. We may make decisions that leave us with less than desirable results. Last week I shared with you about some of the decisions I made in college and how those decisions marked me deeply for the
next 10 years or so. Maybe YOU MADE SOME DECISIONS in college that have left you with deep shame. Maybe you made decisions in your first marriage that you are still ashamed of.
Or maybe there were DECISIONS MADE FOR YOU that have you stuck in shame. These maybe at the hands of those who were supposed to care for you or provide for you. Maybe these were the people who were supposed to love you. Maybe these decisions were made by people you barely knew, and yet, because of what they’ve done you’re unable to move beyond it. You keep replaying it over and over in your head, and at the end of the day you keep coming up with the same thing… Not only did a bad thing happen to you, you are a bad thing.
Today we need to take a look at someone else who has been stuck in shame. Not by choice necessarily either. Turn with me to Mark 5, that’s page 685 in the Bible’s around you, or we would encourage you to check out the YouVersion App and click over in the live events tab and find today’s notes.
Right here we find Jesus is on the Sea of Galilee and He has landed on the shore after a trip from the other side, and He’s met by a crowd of people. People who knew who He was, and they wanted to be by him. In the midst of a crowd is one very concerned Father by the name of Jairus. Look at why Jairus was so concerned.
22 Then one of the synagogue rulers, named Jairus, came there. Seeing Jesus, he fell at his feet 23 and pleaded earnestly with him, “My little daughter is dying. Please come and put your hands on her so that she will be healed and live.”i
This dad is clearly concerned because His daughter is dying! We don’t know why, but she is not well. And he does what any dad would do in this situation, he pleads with Jesus to heal his daughter. He says, if only YOU WOULD COME AND TOUCH HER. If you would go to her, she would be healed.
And what do we see Jesus doing?
24 So Jesus went with him. A large crowd followed and pressed around him.ii
Understand something. Jesus is compassionate. He never wants people to be stuck in pain. He moved towards this young woman, and began on their way to Jairus’ house. This is why so many people wanted to be around Him. We get a glimpse in the story of another person who was in the midst of the crowd today. It’s another woman…
25 And a woman was there who had been subject to bleeding for twelve years.
Again, we don’t know the exact condition of this woman, but we do know that she was suffering with an issue of blood. One of the commonly held positions is that this woman was suffering from menstrual bleeding that didn’t stop for 12 years. So rather than a monthly cycle, it was a daily cycle.
Here’s what you need to know. That according to the Old Testament law there were certain things that would cause a man or a woman to be unclean, and that would prevent them from entering the temple, being able to make sacrifices and offerings to God, and receiving forgiveness for sins committed. In order to be made clean there were certain things that needed to be done, or time that needed to pass, and due to this woman’s body, she was unable to go to temple—she was unclean.
But not only was she unable to go to temple, she was unable to be intimate with people… others could be made unclean by touching her as well. It’s like the coronavirus right now. No one will touch you, because you’re unclean! Don’t touch the things they touch, let alone embrace them in any level of intimacy. Can you imagine? This woman lived with this for 12 years—and everyone knew about it.
She was filled with shame and followed around by shame consistently. She was reminded of this every day. Some of you have the same experience. In fact, we’re reminded of this truth today, Pt 1 EVERYONE NEEDS HEALING. We all have some sort of issue, it may not be an issue of blood, but
there are issues in your life and in mine that we all need healing from! We chase after all kinds of things. Things to numb the pain. Things to reduce the pain. Things to distract us from the pain.
What does the Bible say about this woman? This woman has tried to be healed for 12 years.
26 She had suffered a great deal under the care of many doctors and had spent all she had, yet instead of getting better she grew worse.iii
She did everything she possibly could to heal herself. She went to the doctor. Then she went to see another doctor, she got a second opinion. And if this isn’t the truest thing you’ve read all day, she went and spent all that she had on medical treatments. She was chasing down every single option humanly possible. And yet she GOT WORSE!
This is why I love our Financial Peace University Class here at Hope City. Jeff and Shari McDuffie are leading this class during the first service this quarter and I love this because FPU is a class that helps treat symptoms of pain. Many of us Buy stuff we can’t afford to impress people we don’t even know to cover over pain, embarrassment, or shame in some area of our life. We offer FPU because we want to help you be free from debt, and financial shame and bondage.
Everyone Needs Healing! It’s true of me, and it’s true of you! We all need to be healed from something. And in order for us to SHIFT shame we’re going to have to seek healing. The most important thing is not what we are seeking healing FOR but rather where we seek healing FROM.
Look back at what we can learn from this woman… So much here.
27 When she heard about Jesus, she came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, 28 because she thought, “If I just touch his clothes, I will be healed.”iv
Don’t miss this. This unnamed woman has more to teach us today than we may have ever given her credit for. She knows she needs healing, everyone needs healing. BUT what’s important is what she does in her need for healing.
Too many of us do something different than what she did.
We go anesthetize ourselves with
· A shopping spree
· A vacation
· Your favorite bottle of beer
Or maybe all three of them combined. In other words, WE TRY TO SELF MEDICATE.
Or we go to professionals for Prescribed Medication. We look to pills and science. And I know that there is a time for that. YOUR BODY IS PHYSICAL or Chemical, so prescription medication is important. YOUR BODY IS ALSO EMOTIONAL, so a good counselor is important. It’s why I see a counselor on the regular. It’s not because there is something wrong with me, but because I’m going to maintain the emotional part of my life. YOUR BODY IS SPIRITUAL.
This woman understood this, and she understood who Jesus was. That He could HEAL her totally and completely. Look back at this real quick… what does she do?
27 When she heard about Jesus, she came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, 28 because she thought, “If I just touch his clothes, I will be healed.”v
She understands that she doesn’t only need Jesus to come to her… she says, if I GO TO HIM, I’ll be healed. If I just touch HIM I will be healed. Everyone praises the faith of Jairus the concerned father… JESUS COME TO MY DAUGHTER… HEAL HER… COME TO HER….
This lady says, no… I’m going to do everything within my power to be healed. I’m going to go to Jesus. If I do that, if I’m in His presence I can’t help but be healed. There is power in Jesus, and I need to be by him, be near him.
I want you to write this down, step two of Shifting Shame is that we need to Pt. 2 MOVE TOWARDS JESUS. Everyone wanted Jesus to touch their life. And yet, this woman moved towards Jesus to touch
his! She put herself in a way that intersects with Jesus. She was in need of healing. She was bleeding… and she moved towards Jesus.
Can I ask you, what do you need healing from? What are you so ashamed of that you need healing?
In 2015, I had my first panic attack. I was caught in the uncertainty of my job at the time, I was certain that I needed to move, I needed to change what I was doing and yet, I was uncertain of how that would play out. We were raising three little kids at the time…. I felt so unsettled. There were some unhealthy things going on in my work… I had a boss who was manipulative, fear based, and all of these things led to me in just a matter of moments, my emotions couldn’t hold up any longer. I started to panic. I felt it in my chest first, then it spread to my stomach, and pretty soon, my whole body was feeling physically what was going on emotionally.
I didn’t know what to do. I ran outside. I had to escape. I needed to get away from people. All I knew to do was keep breathing. There was nothing I could do on my own. I felt overwhelmed… I was embarrassed. And quite honestly I was ashamed. I didn’t even tell my wife Tiffany that it happened to me for about 2 years after that.
This was the first time, but it wouldn’t be the last time that panic would try to sneak in and get a hold of my life in a physical way. The only difference was that the first time I was unprepared. But I wasn’t going to be unprepared again. I was going to move towards Jesus. I could feel it when I would fly… there was a season of life where getting on a plane and sitting in a confined area would start to cause this anxiety and panic in me to start ramping up. And whenever it did, I moved towards Jesus. Am I asking Jesus to come to me and heal me from ever feeling anxiety and panic again in my life? ABSOLUTELY!
Listen to me, MOVE TOWARDS JESUS EVEN WHILE YOU’RE WAITING FOR THE MIRACULOUS MOVE OF JESUS IN YOUR LIFE.
So many people I know want a miracle from Jesus, and yet they aren’t MOVING TOWARDS JESUS. What are you doing today to have your life intersect with Jesus? Do you want to move beyond Shame? Do you want to SHIFT SHAME? Get where Jesus is and where He is going. Let your life intersect with HIM!
How would you do that? It isn’t as mystical as you think it would be.
· WORSHIP- this isn’t only singing… but telling God who He is to you, and giving God glory and honor… it may come out in song, but it could also come out in pen and paper, it could show up in your attitude.
· PRAYER- This is simply put, just talking with God. We aren’t surprised when our relationships with others go sideways when we cut off communication, and yet when we stop talking with God, we wonder, God, why am I not hearing from you?
· SCRIPTURE- The Bible… it’s God’s words written back to us! It is filled with story after story that reveal God’s character to us. It shows God’s love for us… and if you want to know God more, you’ll read His word more.
· PEOPLE- If you want to have your life intersect with Jesus, get around those people who’s lives intersect with Jesus. Get in a connect group. Get on a serving team. Get yourself to church! It’s important for you to be with others here at church. When you miss a week, you miss an opportunity.
I’m afraid that the pendulum has swung too far… some of us grew up in a conservative Christian tradition that said you had to have your quiet time, you had to be in church, and you had to pray, you had to be in a connect group. And if you weren’t you were guilted into it. Well, that wasn’t healthy or helpful. And so in response, we have said… NAH, you don’t have too. It’s come as you are. And yet, there is something very healthy about doing these things. Don’t miss out on that.
When this woman moved towards Jesus a miracle happened. Look at this:
29 Immediately her bleeding stopped and she felt in her body that she was freed from her suffering. vi
This woman is healed! She is freed from her suffering and her shame! IT IS GONE. She moved towards Jesus, touched the hem of Jesus’ clothes and she was healed. Look at how Jesus responds to her.
34 He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your sufferingvii
Jesus calls her DAUGHTER! And He says, GO IN PEACE. Go free from shame… go free from your past. Go free from you pain and suffering. Go free from what was holding you back.
Don’t miss this, there wasn’t only one concerned father there that day. Yes, Jairus was concerned about his dying daughter, but he wasn’t the only one. You see, this woman with the issue of blood… she has a heavenly father who was concerned for her too. He looked down upon her and through Jesus she was healed. God the Father cared about this woman with her issues, in the same way that He cares about you with yours.
We see here in scripture that Pt. 3 GOD WON’T ONLY CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES, HE’LL ALSO CHANGE YOUR HEART. It’s not enough for you to just go in peace. It’s not enough for you to just go free from shame. God loves you enough to call you a child of his. Imagine being this woman who has paid all kinds of money to be healed. She has been ostracized and kept on the outside. She’s been isolated and alone because of her pain, and here today for the first time someone speaks to her in a way that doesn’t describe her condition, but rather her position. Her position as a beloved child of God.
Today, if you’re going to shift shame, would you let God not only change your circumstances, but also your heart?
Because you’re not
· A failure, you’re a son or daughter of God who is an overcomer.
· An addict, you’re a son or daughter of God who is freed from addiciton.
· A successful businesswoman, you’re a son or daughter of God who’s been blessed to be a blessing.
· The product of divorce, you’re a son or daughter of God is rediscovering what I means to build trust in relationships.
· Unloved, or unaccepted, you’re a son or daughter of God loved unconditionally.
Is it a miracle that this woman’s CONDITION was healed? YES… But I believe that one of the greater miracles was that her POSITION was healed as well.
If we’re going to get SHAME OFF YOU, you’re going to have to SHIFT YOUR SHAME BY SHIFTING YOUR FAITH. It’s not about me, and what I can do. There is no amount of me doing to heal myself or my family. I’ve got to move my faith and put it squarely in the person of Jesus. Can I help you with this?
I want to give you a phrase to memorize and repeat.
I AM NOT _____________ BUT BECAUSE OF JESUS I AM _____________.
I am a new creature in Christ. (2 Corinthians 5:17)
I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. (2 Corinthians 5:21)
Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world. (1 John 4:4)
Able to go on
It is not I who live, but Christ lives in me. (Galatians 2:20)
I am greatly loved by God. (Romans 1:7, Ephesians 2:4, Colossians 3:12)
I can do all things through Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:13)
I am God’s workmanship, created in Christ for good works. (Ephesians 3:10)
We handed those cards out to you last week. I hope that you’ve been hanging on to them and reminding yourself of them. SHIFT YOUR SHAME BY SHIFTING YOUR FAITH. It’s not about you, it’s not about how good you are. It’s about who JESUS is.
Did you know that there is a medical condition called Phantom Pain? You can feel pain that is not really there. This is a real condition. It’s not just a psychological issue. There is something that gets backed into your spinal cord, and your muscle memory that can flair up even when the source of that pain is gone. I wonder if there are some of you in this room this morning with some phantom pains that are flaring up.
· You’re not a good enough parent.
· You never measured up for dad.
· You’re a drop out or a quitter.
· Your family will never really be blended.
· You’re no good with money. Or you’re too good with money.
· You’re stuck in your hurts, habits, and hang-ups.
What would it look like for you today… what do you need to hear? What lie do you need to shut down, what word do you need to bring to the foot of the cross and be reminded not of your condition, but of your position?
WOULD YOU DO THAT TODAY? If we’re going to GET SHAME OFF YOU, we need to SHIFT YOUR FAITH TO A GOD that LOVES you and PROVIDES for you.